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What Is Lament? Understanding Ash Wednesday and the Gift of Honest Prayer

Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent ,a season in the Christian calendar that invites us into reflection, repentance, and remembering our need for God.

I didn’t grow up observing Ash Wednesday. In fact, I never even heard much about it. But as I’ve grown older in my faith, I’ve come to deeply appreciate what this season represents ,especially the practice of lament.

One of my new favorite resources this past year has been The Worship Initiative. A friend shared it with me, and recently they’ve been doing a series on lament. In one episode,Mark Vroegop (author of Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy) shared a powerful definition:

“Lament is a prayer in pain that leads to trust.”

Pause on that for a moment.

A prayer.

In pain.

That leads to trust.

Not a denial of pain.

Not pretending everything is fine.

Not rushing to a quick spiritual answer.

Lament gives us language for the hard things ,the unanswered questions, the disappointments, the grief, the confusion. It teaches us that we can bring all of it to God.

Psalm 13: A Pattern for Lament


In the Book of Psalms chapter 13, David begins with raw honesty:

“How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?”

He asks questions.

He expresses sorrow.

He feels forgotten.

But the psalm doesn’t end there.

It ends in trust:

“But I trust in your unfailing love…”

That’s the movement of lament.

From pain → to prayer → to trust.

Not because circumstances changed instantly.

But because the heart turned toward God.

Why Lament Matters

Ash Wednesday reminds us that we are dust. That we are fragile. That we are not in control.

And lament gives us permission to bring that fragility to God.

We don’t have to only pray polished prayers.

We don’t have to only thank Him when things are good.

We can say, “How long?”

We can say, “I don’t understand.”

We can say, “This hurts.”

And still — we can trust.

Check out The Worship Initiative on the link below and go to Monday 16 to hear this beautiful psalm in song form. It’s one of my new favorites ✨

https://sing.theworshipinitiative.com/series/daily/2026-02-16?autoplay=1&from=daily+devo&ref_user=1eb7aa78-7816-4edb-b554-0b2e2b6a9fc7


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